Moving with Teenagers
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Tom Selwick
Tom Selwick is a resident of Utah and has written hundreds of articles relating to tourism and Park City homes. He has been involved in local travel and tourism for over 20 years.
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Published on March 16, 2010
Moving with teenagers is a very different experience than moving with young children. Sometimes teenagers are very excited about the move, and other times this is not the case.
Moving with teenagers is a very different experience than moving with young children. Sometimes teenagers are very excited about the move, and other times this is not the case.
Throughout the teenage years, children are separating from their family in preparation for creating their own. They begin to depend more and more on their friends for a support group.
Leaving these friends and making new friendships can be very difficult for them. They may be concerned about their new school and what the kids will be like there.
The most important thing when it comes to telling teenagers that you are moving is to let them know about it as soon as you know. Keeping the move a secret from your teenager will increase their distrust and create unnecessary tension in the family.
By telling them about the move immediately, they will have time to think about and become comfortable with the idea of moving. It will also give them time to say goodbye to their friends and to make plans for making new friends and keeping in touch with the old friends.
Before telling them about the move, you may want to do a little research about the new area and the schools and activities that are offered. When you are armed with this information you will be able to convince your teenage that there will be many opportunities and that it will be fun.
These benefits may also include things like their own bedroom, the rugby team at the new school, or more public transportation for them to go where they want. Explain to them that they will be able to continue their hobbies and interests in the new area.
There may even be more opportunities to develop their talent than in your current home. When explaining and discussing the move, do not dance around the subject.
Teenagers prefer it if you are fairly blunt and straightforward with them. Teenagers are old enough to understand why the move has to be made.
Explain to them that Dad will have better work in the new location or that their grandma needs them to live closer so that they can help her out more. Use logic and reasoning to explain why, but do not yell or become overbearing.
After they are assured of the reason why they have to move, they will likely want to know how soon they are going to move. This schedule will be very important for them so that they can make sure that they will have time to say good-bye to their friends.
It will also be important for them to know whether one parent is going first and the family will be following later or if the family is going all at once. Whether or not you have already found a new home will also be very important.
Let your teenager contribute his or her ideas because this will help them feel like an important part of the family. Try to incorporate some of their ideas if they are feasible.
However, never promise something that you cannot act on. This will only create a greater rift of distrust between you and your teenager.
Even if your teenager appears to be fine, or even excited, about the move they are most likely experiencing some degree of despair at moving. Moving is the hardest while a teenager.
Throughout this time, teenagers are starting to learn how to make and maintain long-term relationships. These relationships may include romantic relationships as well as friendships.
The move may be viewed by your teen as unraveling the hard work they have put into making these more successful relationships. Teenagers are also trying to find out who they are and define themselves as someone outside of the family.
The move is a strong reminder that they are still subject to family rules and decisions. This reminder may be difficult for them to cope with and they may show signs of rebellion against the typical family rules.
Throughout the move be patient with them by giving them time and space. Help them feel loved and refrain from lecturing, becoming defensive, yelling, and getting them in trouble. As they begin to form new friendships they will often settle down.
Be sure to show gratitude for their help. This will help them feel loved and like a useful and important part of the family.
Throughout the teenage years, children are separating from their family in preparation for creating their own. They begin to depend more and more on their friends for a support group.
Leaving these friends and making new friendships can be very difficult for them. They may be concerned about their new school and what the kids will be like there.
The most important thing when it comes to telling teenagers that you are moving is to let them know about it as soon as you know. Keeping the move a secret from your teenager will increase their distrust and create unnecessary tension in the family.
By telling them about the move immediately, they will have time to think about and become comfortable with the idea of moving. It will also give them time to say goodbye to their friends and to make plans for making new friends and keeping in touch with the old friends.
Before telling them about the move, you may want to do a little research about the new area and the schools and activities that are offered. When you are armed with this information you will be able to convince your teenage that there will be many opportunities and that it will be fun.
These benefits may also include things like their own bedroom, the rugby team at the new school, or more public transportation for them to go where they want. Explain to them that they will be able to continue their hobbies and interests in the new area.
There may even be more opportunities to develop their talent than in your current home. When explaining and discussing the move, do not dance around the subject.
Teenagers prefer it if you are fairly blunt and straightforward with them. Teenagers are old enough to understand why the move has to be made.
Explain to them that Dad will have better work in the new location or that their grandma needs them to live closer so that they can help her out more. Use logic and reasoning to explain why, but do not yell or become overbearing.
After they are assured of the reason why they have to move, they will likely want to know how soon they are going to move. This schedule will be very important for them so that they can make sure that they will have time to say good-bye to their friends.
It will also be important for them to know whether one parent is going first and the family will be following later or if the family is going all at once. Whether or not you have already found a new home will also be very important.
Let your teenager contribute his or her ideas because this will help them feel like an important part of the family. Try to incorporate some of their ideas if they are feasible.
However, never promise something that you cannot act on. This will only create a greater rift of distrust between you and your teenager.
Even if your teenager appears to be fine, or even excited, about the move they are most likely experiencing some degree of despair at moving. Moving is the hardest while a teenager.
Throughout this time, teenagers are starting to learn how to make and maintain long-term relationships. These relationships may include romantic relationships as well as friendships.
The move may be viewed by your teen as unraveling the hard work they have put into making these more successful relationships. Teenagers are also trying to find out who they are and define themselves as someone outside of the family.
The move is a strong reminder that they are still subject to family rules and decisions. This reminder may be difficult for them to cope with and they may show signs of rebellion against the typical family rules.
Throughout the move be patient with them by giving them time and space. Help them feel loved and refrain from lecturing, becoming defensive, yelling, and getting them in trouble. As they begin to form new friendships they will often settle down.
Be sure to show gratitude for their help. This will help them feel loved and like a useful and important part of the family.